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Was cleaning out the cupboard today and found some bittersweet Chai memories that I just can't bring myself to get rid of.
One was a single pill, a sedative, in a little bag from the vet downstairs. I remember that was on a Wednesday - just two days after her first seizure - where I was agonizing over whether to euthanize her downstairs that day at the unfamiliar vet, or wait until Friday with her regular vet. I asked for a sedative so that she wouldn't be so scared when I took her downstairs because those vets aren't very gentle and the place was so big and loud. But, I never used it. I ended up waiting until Friday. I'm so glad I did because I couldn't have asked for a more peaceful euthanasia at our regular vet, and I know she felt much safer with that vet she knew. But seeing that pill just reminded me of how horrible it was, that Wednesday... to see my kitty dying and trying to make the decision of when to end her life... not wanting it to be too soon, or too late... It's not a happy memory but I still couldn't bring myself to throw it away.
The other thing I found was the little "petting stick" that I made and used to tame her. That brings much dearer memories. It was just a short plastic wand toy, with some furry pelt on the end, folded over with a hairband. I remember how nervous she was at first, hissing and swatting at it, flinching and shaking with huge eyes when it touched her... but then how ever so gradually, over weeks, she calmed down... she began to relax while I pet her with it... the first time she stretched her neck out while I rubbed it under her chin... until it became a precious routine for us, where she settled down for a nap and closed her eyes while I used it to stroke her whole body gently. And how I would lay in the bathroom with her for so many hours while we watched tv on my laptop together. I remember how I slowly inched my hand up the stick to start touching her with a finger, then going back to just the stick if she was too nervous. And I remember the day she embraced my touch and I never needed that petting stick again.
The anniversary of adopting her is coming up in about month and I know I'm going to be a mess. When I brought her home in the taxi ride that day, I was already planning how I would celebrate her 1 year gotcha day... and now she's not here. I know that Christmastime is going to be even harder and I think I will always associate Christmas with her death now.
One was a single pill, a sedative, in a little bag from the vet downstairs. I remember that was on a Wednesday - just two days after her first seizure - where I was agonizing over whether to euthanize her downstairs that day at the unfamiliar vet, or wait until Friday with her regular vet. I asked for a sedative so that she wouldn't be so scared when I took her downstairs because those vets aren't very gentle and the place was so big and loud. But, I never used it. I ended up waiting until Friday. I'm so glad I did because I couldn't have asked for a more peaceful euthanasia at our regular vet, and I know she felt much safer with that vet she knew. But seeing that pill just reminded me of how horrible it was, that Wednesday... to see my kitty dying and trying to make the decision of when to end her life... not wanting it to be too soon, or too late... It's not a happy memory but I still couldn't bring myself to throw it away.
The other thing I found was the little "petting stick" that I made and used to tame her. That brings much dearer memories. It was just a short plastic wand toy, with some furry pelt on the end, folded over with a hairband. I remember how nervous she was at first, hissing and swatting at it, flinching and shaking with huge eyes when it touched her... but then how ever so gradually, over weeks, she calmed down... she began to relax while I pet her with it... the first time she stretched her neck out while I rubbed it under her chin... until it became a precious routine for us, where she settled down for a nap and closed her eyes while I used it to stroke her whole body gently. And how I would lay in the bathroom with her for so many hours while we watched tv on my laptop together. I remember how I slowly inched my hand up the stick to start touching her with a finger, then going back to just the stick if she was too nervous. And I remember the day she embraced my touch and I never needed that petting stick again.
The anniversary of adopting her is coming up in about month and I know I'm going to be a mess. When I brought her home in the taxi ride that day, I was already planning how I would celebrate her 1 year gotcha day... and now she's not here. I know that Christmastime is going to be even harder and I think I will always associate Christmas with her death now.