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@foxxycat ((Hugs)) it sounds like a horrendous nightmare you are living... so horrible.. I do not know what to say..

I remember when my hospital was either going to be sold or merge with another one. It was nail biting time.. lay offs, rumors running rampant.. a very bad working situation. (It is still is)

Wishing you the best of luck all around...

the only thing I can think of is to be semi-honest during interviews.. everyone knows your place is undergoing treacherous times.
I would probably say; you are looking around to see what is out there.. while you love your current role, the future is uncertain, and you want to be with a company who is stable ~~ a place where you can have a future.. and possible advancement; that you are at a dead end where you are... and need some financial stability.. that you heard very good things about where you are applying and are willing to work hard, to achieve more skills for the future.

hopefully that sounds ok
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on to me!! I am going to vent:

I have made a decision.. not a life changing one, but a family one..
I have decided not to attend a first b-day party for my Cousin's grandson. I would have to drive 120 miles round trip in order to attend this party. I would be traveling alone. It is at 2pm. Would have to leave my house at 12:30pm and probably arrive home at around 6:30pm.....

I never see these people!! Only at Thanksgiving, and Christmas..and pictures on Facebook.. never talk to them.. I am not going to be a 'cash cow".. I did that with my cousin's kid, ~~~the mother of this baby.

I spent so much money on this girl/woman when she was young.. and now, she does not even talk to me at family gatherings, not even a remembrance of me taking her and her sister to the Children's Museum, the Aquarium, to many Movies, to the Museum of Science, going for Ice Cream, miniature golf, petting zoos, shopping, taking her to my hairdresser for her first 'highlight's, meeting Miss Massachusetts, annual apple picking, going sledding with her and her sister, teaching her to drive, just hanging out, taking her for a day when her parents were having a bad time/divorce.... so I am stopping it now. This is the first grandchild, so I am nipping it in the bud.
Never did she ever call and ask about my dad, never did she even call to see how he was when he was dying.. nothing..

At her sons's Christening.. I was left in charge to take care of my aunt-- the baby's great-grandmother... and was pretty much ignored.
I do not have anything in common with them.. I do not drink and drive..This party is at a bar which the father of the baby is partner in....Never see this kid at all. Saw them last at Christmas.

I am done.

Besides, between wasting car's gas to travel, and a gift...well, lets just say, I could pay my own gas bill..
She chose to live 60 miles away from where she grew up with family.

And Artie would be missing a dose of his cisapride medicine..I am not willing to risk that.. not after all I have done for my guy.

Thank you for listening to me vent. I sent my regrets to the Invite. I am late doing so, but I have been debating it for a while now.. it really got me thinking the past few days..
Sounds like you made the right decision; for your heart and mind and, most importantly, for Artie as well.

The biggest thing I did Cindy is tell off the family members who made my life a living h. And just deal with a few of them. I don't go out of my way to see them. They never ask me if I am ok. Last night I had a very bad night with my depression. People ticking me off. Things getting under my skin that normally I could give a flip about. But I got through it. I am here at work. Did some more welding at lunch-I need to add a cheater lens because I am trying to run small beads and I am having a hard time seeing the puddle. I also need a new helmet that goes down to shade 7. I use a shade 10 but it's too dark for what I was doing. I need to learn to weld on .030" thick tubing. I took a piece of shim stock that was .005" thick and set it at 20amps=poof! OPPS! I was just fooling around to see if I can do sheet metal welding..opps!!I laughed at myself!

Right now I am building a kind of house out of metal..a cube piece and two long pieces set up perpendicular to each other. I still have to grind the mill scale off the pieces I will tack on. It's been interesting to play around with it. Darn I need a garage..I could sit there and weld beads on scraps for hours..I am weird-it helps my OCD it seems-repetitive patterns. Hopefully by next Saturday I will have the roof welded onto the cube section. Hahaha I just love building things-even if it looks soso..still fun!
What are you going to do with it?

Today was the first day since Ruby got here that I saw the hierarchy that her and Angua worked out in action. I know that Carrot is allowed to do anything he wants with Ruby - He can kick her out of a window perch, steal her food, ect without any ramifications (from her at least). Yesterday, I saw that Angua can also do the same. Ruby was napping in my lap and Angua came and sat on the arm of my chair. She meowed and looked at Ruby. Ruby immediately got up and left so that Angua could take my lap.
:crackup: Just know that the hierarchy can change at a moments notice.
 

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:crackup: Just know that the hierarchy can change at a moments notice.
I've heard that, but how true is it? The hierarchy at my house has never changed, even though I've heard illness will trigger a reworking of the feline ladder.
 

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Okay, to explain what happened I have to explain something about my family. See, for years (from about the end of elementary school to the beginning of college, when I had my tonsils removed) I had no sense of smell. (And even now, I only have it one week a month--I don't know why.) Well, AWM didn't believe me when I said I had no sense of smell, or thought I was over-exaggerating a weak sense of smell. (To be fair, AWM's sense of smell has always been insanely powerful.) So one day back in high-school, after a doctor's appointment, AWM and I were at a buffet. One of the things on the buffet was a fish. (Back then I loved fish, and the reason why I don't now has nothing to do with this incident.) Usually, at that particular buffet, the fish was devoured as soon as it was put out, but on this particular occasion it was still mostly untouched (warning sign number one), so put some on my plate and took it back to the table. (Now remember, back then AWM didn't know I really couldn't smell.) I got a fork full of fish, put it in my mouth--and spit it out. The fish was rancid! And AWM was laughing at the look on my face. However, there was a positive consequence to this: AWM now knows that I really, truly, had no sense of smell.

Fast forward today. I know I've mentioned on this site, previously talking about diets, that the women in my family have insanely low levels of sodium, and cutting salt from our diet could prove fatal. Well, after Grandma got so sick, one of her husband's daughters began cooking food for the two of them. (I know he's married to Grandma, but they've been married for less than a decade and it just feels weird calling him Grandpa.) Well, Grandma, of course, told the woman about her need for salt. Makes sense, right? Well, the woman didn't believe her, and cut almost all the salt from the meals she was making for the two of them. Earlier this afternoon, Grandma (of course) collapsed. They rushed her to the hospital, called all the family just in case she was dying--only to find out that she collapsed because her sodium was far too low. (She was given an IV, is on oxygen at the hospital, and is fine while being kept for observation.)
 

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I've heard that, but how true is it? The hierarchy at my house has never changed, even though I've heard illness will trigger a reworking of the feline ladder.
My cats are all healthy, but the hierarchy will shift at a moments notice. Usually with the weather; if it's hot Princess (who has the shortest fur) tends to be the dominant of all four, and if it's cold it's usually Ra (who has the longest fur). And sometimes it's Spot and sometimes it's Asia, and I have no idea what the criteria is for them.
 

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@foxxycat ((Hugs)) it sounds like a horrendous nightmare you are living... so horrible.. I do not know what to say..

I remember when my hospital was either going to be sold or merge with another one. It was nail biting time.. lay offs, rumors running rampant.. a very bad working situation. (It is still is)

Wishing you the best of luck all around...

the only thing I can think of is to be semi-honest during interviews.. everyone knows your place is undergoing treacherous times.
I would probably say; you are looking around to see what is out there.. while you love your current role, the future is uncertain, and you want to be with a company who is stable ~~ a place where you can have a future.. and possible advancement; that you are at a dead end where you are... and need some financial stability.. that you heard very good things about where you are applying and are willing to work hard, to achieve more skills for the future.

hopefully that sounds ok
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on to me!! I am going to vent:

I have made a decision.. not a life changing one, but a family one..
I have decided not to attend a first b-day party for my Cousin's grandson. I would have to drive 120 miles round trip in order to attend this party. I would be traveling alone. It is at 2pm. Would have to leave my house at 12:30pm and probably arrive home at around 6:30pm.....

I never see these people!! Only at Thanksgiving, and Christmas..and pictures on Facebook.. never talk to them.. I am not going to be a 'cash cow".. I did that with my cousin's kid, ~~~the mother of this baby.

I spent so much money on this girl/woman when she was young.. and now, she does not even talk to me at family gatherings, not even a remembrance of me taking her and her sister to the Children's Museum, the Aquarium, to many Movies, to the Museum of Science, going for Ice Cream, miniature golf, petting zoos, shopping, taking her to my hairdresser for her first 'highlight's, meeting Miss Massachusetts, annual apple picking, going sledding with her and her sister, teaching her to drive, just hanging out, taking her for a day when her parents were having a bad time/divorce.... so I am stopping it now. This is the first grandchild, so I am nipping it in the bud.
Never did she ever call and ask about my dad, never did she even call to see how he was when he was dying.. nothing..

At her sons's Christening.. I was left in charge to take care of my aunt-- the baby's great-grandmother... and was pretty much ignored.
I do not have anything in common with them.. I do not drink and drive..This party is at a bar which the father of the baby is partner in....Never see this kid at all. Saw them last at Christmas.

I am done.

Besides, between wasting car's gas to travel, and a gift...well, lets just say, I could pay my own gas bill..
She chose to live 60 miles away from where she grew up with family.

And Artie would be missing a dose of his cisapride medicine..I am not willing to risk that.. not after all I have done for my guy.

Thank you for listening to me vent. I sent my regrets to the Invite. I am late doing so, but I have been debating it for a while now.. it really got me thinking the past few days..

As I said before sometimes it's time to say "no". Just because this girl and her baby are family does not mean you have to keep up a relationship. People like this send out masses of invitations in the hope of getting gifts, including money gifts. Come on, who would have b-day celebration for a 1 yr old? Does that child care? I never even had b-day celebrations for my own children until they had an understanding of what that was all about, probably at age 4 or 5, don't remember now, it's been too long since they were that age.
That said, keep b-day celebrations for children in the closest family, when they get older (like 10 or more) you can have a real party with their friends invited and at that point those kids don't want a bunch of adults around anyway, same age cousins maybe but no more.
 

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Okay, to explain what happened I have to explain something about my family. See, for years (from about the end of elementary school to the beginning of college, when I had my tonsils removed) I had no sense of smell. (And even now, I only have it one week a month--I don't know why.) Well, AWM didn't believe me when I said I had no sense of smell, or thought I was over-exaggerating a weak sense of smell. (To be fair, AWM's sense of smell has always been insanely powerful.) So one day back in high-school, after a doctor's appointment, AWM and I were at a buffet. One of the things on the buffet was a fish. (Back then I loved fish, and the reason why I don't now has nothing to do with this incident.) Usually, at that particular buffet, the fish was devoured as soon as it was put out, but on this particular occasion it was still mostly untouched (warning sign number one), so put some on my plate and took it back to the table. (Now remember, back then AWM didn't know I really couldn't smell.) I got a fork full of fish, put it in my mouth--and spit it out. The fish was rancid! And AWM was laughing at the look on my face. However, there was a positive consequence to this: AWM now knows that I really, truly, had no sense of smell.

Fast forward today. I know I've mentioned on this site, previously talking about diets, that the women in my family have insanely low levels of sodium, and cutting salt from our diet could prove fatal. Well, after Grandma got so sick, one of her husband's daughters began cooking food for the two of them. (I know he's married to Grandma, but they've been married for less than a decade and it just feels weird calling him Grandpa.) Well, Grandma, of course, told the woman about her need for salt. Makes sense, right? Well, the woman didn't believe her, and cut almost all the salt from the meals she was making for the two of them. Earlier this afternoon, Grandma (of course) collapsed. They rushed her to the hospital, called all the family just in case she was dying--only to find out that she collapsed because her sodium was far too low. (She was given an IV, is on oxygen at the hospital, and is fine while being kept for observation.)

I would have thought that grandma would have known with the first bite that there was not enough salt in the food. For someone who does not have the problem your family has it would be difficult to judge how much salt should be in the food, you can always add more but can't take it out. She probably thought she would make it tasty for her father and that grandma could add salt. Perhaps her father has high blood pressure, too much salt will exacerbate it and she was looking out for him. Give the woman a break and ask her why she did not put the extra salt in grandma's food..
Have you considered that your family might be suffering from Addison's disease? It would explain why you yourself have no energy or strength and also the need for extra salt.
 
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My cats are all healthy, but the hierarchy will shift at a moments notice. Usually with the weather; if it's hot Princess (who has the shortest fur) tends to be the dominant of all four, and if it's cold it's usually Ra (who has the longest fur). And sometimes it's Spot and sometimes it's Asia, and I have no idea what the criteria is for them.
That is bizarre. I have never heard of that happening. All the cats I have ever had have always maintained the same hierarchy unless there was a change in which cats were there.
 

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This is not cat related sorry but I just have to get it off my chest. A family friend just died of a drug overdose. My 14 year old daughter loved him so much and is so upset. We are going to the funeral on Wednesday and it's going to be my hardest day as a parent. My heart brakes for the family and it makes me want to hold my daughter closer. Thank you for letting me ramble on
 

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This is not cat related sorry but I just have to get it off my chest. A family friend just died of a drug overdose. My 14 year old daughter loved him so much and is so upset. We are going to the funeral on Wednesday and it's going to be my hardest day as a parent. My heart brakes for the family and it makes me want to hold my daughter closer. Thank you for letting me ramble on
This thread is definitely not just for cat-related things. I'm so sorry for your and your daughter's loss. :grouphug2:
 

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I would have thought that grandma would have known with the first bite that there was not enough salt in the food. For someone who does not have the problem your family has it would be difficult to judge how much salt should be in the food, you can always add more but can't take it out. She probably thought she would make it tasty for her father and that grandma could add salt. Perhaps her father has high blood pressure, too much salt will exacerbate it and she was looking out for him. Give the woman a break and ask her why she did not put the extra salt in grandma's food..
Have you considered that your family might be suffering from Addison's disease? It would explain why you yourself have no energy or strength and also the need for extra salt.
Grandma has very little sense of taste after her first round with chemo (she used to have lupus), so she couldn't taste the difference. :dunno: To be fair, the woman works in a cardiologist's office, so when Grandma said, "I have to have salt," she probably heard, "I want salt and am willing to lie to get it." She knows now that Grandma wasn't lying, and the issue is fixed.

On a side note--I've never heard of Addison's disease before. I'll have to google it. I guess it's possible? o_O

That is bizarre. I have never heard of that happening. All the cats I have ever had have always maintained the same hierarchy unless there was a change in which cats were there.
Our cats do all sorts of things that aren't normal. (Ra used to make pets of bugs--literally, Spot wags his tail when he's happy like a dog (and still loves digging, having his belly rubbed, and chases his tail), Princess will occasionally try to hide the water dish (don't know why--but it's mostly fixed now that we've got a heavy, tip-resistant bowl), and Asia won't come into the house unless the person opening the door says either, "Welcome home," or "You can come in." Why? Don't know. Don't really see that it matters.

This is not cat related sorry but I just have to get it off my chest. A family friend just died of a drug overdose. My 14 year old daughter loved him so much and is so upset. We are going to the funeral on Wednesday and it's going to be my hardest day as a parent. My heart brakes for the family and it makes me want to hold my daughter closer. Thank you for letting me ramble on
Oh, Honey, :grouphug: for you. Lots of :grouphug:.
 

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Grandma has very little sense of taste after her first round with chemo (she used to have lupus), so she couldn't taste the difference. :dunno: To be fair, the woman works in a cardiologist's office, so when Grandma said, "I have to have salt," she probably heard, "I want salt and am willing to lie to get it." She knows now that Grandma wasn't lying, and the issue is fixed.

On a side note--I've never heard of Addison's disease before. I'll have to google it. I guess it's possible? o_O



Our cats do all sorts of things that aren't normal. (Ra used to make pets of bugs--literally, Spot wags his tail when he's happy like a dog (and still loves digging, having his belly rubbed, and chases his tail), Princess will occasionally try to hide the water dish (don't know why--but it's mostly fixed now that we've got a heavy, tip-resistant bowl), and Asia won't come into the house unless the person opening the door says either, "Welcome home," or "You can come in." Why? Don't know. Don't really see that it matters.



Oh, Honey, :grouphug: for you. Lots of :grouphug:.
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All right, segelkatt segelkatt , I googled Addison's disease, and it's likely I don't have it. I only have four of the twelve listed symptoms, and I don't think that's enough for certainty--or even more than a mild possibility.
 

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This is not cat related sorry but I just have to get it off my chest. A family friend just died of a drug overdose. My 14 year old daughter loved him so much and is so upset. We are going to the funeral on Wednesday and it's going to be my hardest day as a parent. My heart brakes for the family and it makes me want to hold my daughter closer. Thank you for letting me ramble on
I am so sorry. Stay away from the haters, the ones that say he brought it on himself. No need to put you and your daughter through the mental ringer by listening to the finger pointers.
 

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Wow. :eek2: I really, really wish I hadn't washed clothes.

So I go in to grab the hamper from the bedroom. Montressor is on the bed giving himself a bath, lower abdomen. His abdomen is this gorgeous reddish cream color, except for his penis which is covered in black fur. While walking by with the hamper, I thought I saw a red patch of skin near the black area and near his tongue. Worried he was washing a wound I took a closer look.

Turns out my cat was washing his erection. I gotta say, I didn't know cats gave themselves oral......darn, I don't think it'll get past the moderators. Anyway, wish I could unsee that image.
 

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This is not cat related sorry but I just have to get it off my chest. A family friend just died of a drug overdose. My 14 year old daughter loved him so much and is so upset. We are going to the funeral on Wednesday and it's going to be my hardest day as a parent. My heart brakes for the family and it makes me want to hold my daughter closer. Thank you for letting me ramble on
I am so sorry you and your daughter, and of COURSE, the boy's family are going through this. My heart is with you. No, never hesitate to say what is on your mind or in your heart here. That's exactly what this thread is for.
 

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Well, today after work I went to the hospital to visit Grandma, and the situation is much, much more serious than first thought. Her sodium isn't rising, her tryponin levels are dangerously low, she's having heart stutters (at least five that I know of during the visit--might have been more, but I kind of fell asleep), and her lupus is out of remission. I don't think things look good for her right now.:(
 
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